3 years ago…. pre and post pandemic
Updated: Mar 8
What were you doing or worried about three years ago?
I was chatting with a dear friend and this subject came up how if I would have told her three years ago that she would now be married with 2 boys, 2 years old and almost 3 months old would she have believed me? She was not married at the time although dating her now husband, and obviously not pregnant, she gave me a smile, and said NO!
I said oh, maybe I need to write about this, and she said yes you do, you really do.
I have been struggling with my writing these past few months. My book is now complete, our house is built, what is my purpose now the question kept coming up. I have been struggling with the health of my body, so I was focusing on that.
It got me thinking… what was I doing three years ago today or this week? The week of March 6, 2020, so I’ll ask you what were you doing, what were you worried about is the more important question? Does it matter now? Does that time you spent worrying 3 years ago matter now?
I can remember I was in the mist of our biggest event of the season, and our order was late and wasn’t going to be there in time. I was working for a narcissistic boss, dealing with another store that had management, that was more worried about not rocking the boat with someone who was not doing their job, then getting them to do their job and made me the bad guy. I had just lost my mother five months earlier, so I was in the midst of grief. I was frustrated, sad, and sometimes just downright mad.
I was so caught up in the things that just really in the long run don’t matter and boom the pandemic, work from home, scary times watching the news. Even more scarier going to the store and seeing the shelves, empty of food, toilet paper, and cleaning supplies, no hand sanitizer, the uncertainty of all of it was downright scary.
So here I am three years later happier than ever! I have lived through all of it and forgotten a lot of the things I was worried about. I have left my career after 35 years, built a new house, wrote a children’s book, have a website and write a blog. I am more centered and grounded after doing my work to find my passion, and purpose. If you would have told me this would be my life now, I would not have believed you just like my dear friend and her family she created.
In my life so far, I have survived divorce, breakups, death, illness, lost friendships, abandonment issues, working for bad bosses (really only had 2 in my career), not making sales goals, open jobs at work, shipments missing, ever changing territories at work, moving 15 times in 25 years I mean the list could go on. All of these things I have spent hours, days, weeks and months worrying about.
The question really is… what you are worrying about today? Is it really going to matter in a year or 3 years from now?
Does anyone I worked with or for even remember I had a shipment missing or open jobs three years ago or missed a sales goal? I think not! Where is the person who wasn’t doing their job that I spent so much time and energy on? Probably still not doing her job somewhere else.
Everything has ebb and flow, the stock market is always going to go up and down, trees are going to look dead in winter and then bloom in spring. We have to focus on the ups more than the downs!
The things I have learned are to “live in the moment” I do not know who said it, but…. don’t sweat the small stuff!
I’ve also learned, although not to hoard to never run low on toilet paper, you should always be ready for a rainy day, but you shouldn’t fear or worry about the “rainy day.”
So, the question I ask is what were you doing three years ago? Were you worried or upset about something that just doesn’t matter or you have now forgotten about it now?
Life is about learning from hard things we go through. Hard times help us to appreciate the good times. They help us to grow and evolve. That is if you look at them that way. If you don’t then you will keep getting the lesson until you learn. I’m working on learning the first time.
What is the lesson that we learned from the pandemic? What do we know now that can better prepare us for the next pandemic or obstacle that will come to us in our life? (But do not live in fear of them coming)
For me… it is I am going to survive it all and it will all work out even if I can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel there is always a way out!
Stay positive, emphatic, and kind. Try to see the good as much or more than the bad. Let's be honest who can see the good all of the time other than God or Buddha.
Life is always going to have ups and downs but as my mother always told me, you’re right where you’re supposed to be for right now. Live in the moment. I hear you mom!
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Live in the Moment!